I’m feeling a lot of love lately; from my family, boyfriend, friends, and life in general. It’s been a rough few weeks, but I am finally reaching the light at the end of the tunnel.
So, I present to you 30 things: Significant Others Edition.
1. When guys agree to going to see a chick flick with you WITHOUT making you promise to see a bro movie. Not that I would mind, because I do love a good action flick, but a date shouldn’t feel like a trade off.
2. Or when they call you to wake you up. Let’s see, would you rather hear your significant other’s voice? Or an obnoxious, blaring alarm clock? I vote for a “Good morning beautiful!”
3. If he knows your favorite coffee or chick fil a or bojangles order and surprise you with it every once in a while.
4. Introducing you as their significant other. Nothing is more annoying than being on a date and being referred to as a “friend” or worse…. “pal”.
5. Planning dates. Not that being spontaneous isn’t fun (because it is and I love spontaneous dates too), but when someone takes the time to plan out the details, that takes effort and a whole lotta love.
6. Keeping your favorite drink at their place. It’s small, yes, but I love going to my boyfriends apartment knowing that I have my own little case of diet coke waiting for me. It’s like keeping a toothbrush at his place, except cuter.
7. Doesn’t complain about you getting ready, but rather complements you throughout the process. Yessssss I know, us girls are totally guilty of spending a fair amount of time getting ready to go just about anywhere. But, if he can be patient, tell you that your outfit is great and that your hair looks wonderful, then he deserves a gold star and a real big kiss.
8. Putting your necklace on for you. Maybe you can do it yourself, and maybe you geniunely need help. But it’s sweet, in an old romantic movie type of way.
9. Schooling other not-couples with you in beer pong. There is nothing more flattering than being referred to as the power couple. This goes for anything though. Do something together, and be good at it. And have fun, duh.
10. If you aren’t doing something together, cheer each other on. This goes on both sides. I may not looooove lacrosse but I would absolutely cheer him on. And vice versa!
11. Talking about the future. These conversations are the bane of every girls existence because they can go one of two ways, and that anxiety is enough to near kill a person (I thought I was going to faint multiple times). But just to know where things are going is important, and if the discussion goes towards the happier lovey side of things, then wonderful! If not, at least he had the respect to discuss it.
12. Getting to know your family, and let you get to know theirs. I love seeing my boyfriend talk to my little sisters; hands down the cutest thing ever. And I love talking to my boyfriends mother. I will stop there on my drives up to see him just to see her and catch up, sorry merp.
13. Public displays of affection. No, I do not mean sucking face in a crowded mall. I mean catching your glance and smiling at you, or blowing you a kiss. Little reminders of “Hey, youre mine, and I love you”.
14. Helping you with homework. This works best if you’re studying similar things, but if not, he can help you with flash cards or something. Someone that wants to see you succeed is so important. I ask Nathan countless things about finance homework because 1. I dont care about finance and 2. it’s his major. And he doesn’t want to see me fail this class, and so far I have a B so let’s keep this one going! My friend Shane, also a business major, helps his girlfriend, Megan, a nursing major, study for her classes. Remember, be their cheerleader! Help em out!
15. Netflix binging. Someone who won’t judge your for your sick obsession with house of cards is nice. Someone who will indulge in a binge watching session with you is incredible. Try to limit this to an every once in a while type thing…. seeing the light of day is also important.
16. Going on walks. This is less fun in the dead heat of a southern summer because humidity is horrible, but getting out of the house together, walkin’ and talkin’ and getting some sun. Relaxing, and it beats another round of Netflix binging!
17. If he will go shopping with you, winner right there. Don’t be that girl and drag him into 500 shoe stores and Victoria’s Secret and Lilly Pulitzer and and and and and….. But let him help you pick out a new date dress or something. And when you wear it, he’ll be proud of himself for snagging that gem! And picking out the dress too.
18. Volunteering together. Go serve at a soup kitchen, walk dogs at a shelter. Anything that will give back, and enjoy every second of it. Someone who has a philanthropic heart is rare and beautiful.
19. Being able to do things separately. While I love spending time with my boyfriend, nobody likes the couple that is joined at the hip and doesn’t let go. I like being able to meet up with my girls for coffee and conversation just like he likes going to the lacrosse fields with his brother to rip twine (I think that’s what they call it).
20. Cooking together, or for one another. I accept my boys help in the kitchen with open arms. Or I let him take the wheel completely. And then sometimes I make him watch Colbert Report while I chef something up for us. But it’s always better doing it together.
21. DO NOT BORE HIM WITH YOUR PINTEREST BOARDS. HE DOES NOT NEED TO SEE THAT YOU HAVE YOUR DREAM WEDDING PLANNED. OR YOUR FUTURE HOUSE. HE MAY CARE ABOUT RECIPIES BUT THAT IS ONLY IF YOU COOK THEM AND COOK THEM RIGHT. DO NOT MAKE THIS MISTAKE.
22. DO NOT POINT OUT CUTE BABIES AND THEN TELL HIM THE NAMES YOU HAVE PICKED OUT FOR YOUR HYPOTHETICAL CHILDREN UNLESS YOU ARE ENGAGED AND MOVING IN THAT DIRECTION. OTHERWISE IT IS TOO SOON. TOOOOOOOO SOOOOOOOON.
23. Don’t ever stop flirting. With each other, of course.
24. Friendly competition. My boyfriend and I will never see eye to eye for NFL teams. And that rivalry will keep us going, I’m convinced.
25. Laughing together as much as possible. I have a hideous laugh (at least I think so). And I did not stop laughing once on our mini-road trip to and from Boone this weekend. Laughter is key. It is cliche, but so so so true.
26. Go places together! I love day trips to Charleston. But there is a looooong (and growing) list of places I want to see with him. So we will keep checking them off!
27. Learn to forgive. We will alllllll make mistakes, we’re only human.
28. Admit when you are wrong. I hate it as much as the next person, but the only thing worse than being wrong is fighting tooth and nail that you’re right when everyone knows you arent.
29. Take naps. The couple that naps together stays together. That’s the saying, right?
30. Love them. No matter what, don’t you ever let them forget it.